As of lately, we deem 'Living' to have a correlation with 'Risks'. Many of us feel we are judged by success and failure so taking risks put you into a position to be judged. So when is it a good idea to take a risk and when is it just being stupid. We typically judge others as brave, confident, intelligent if they succeed and stupid if they fail. So taking risks can be daunting. Well guess what? You're gonna have to take these risks to have any sort of enjoyable life. We deem correctly. It's easy to take risks when you have taken similar risks in the past and succeed over and over again. Taking risks in something new or where you have failed before is what's difficult. So here's why and how to deal with risks.
Stop worrying about what others think of you. Easier said than done right? If you live your life fearing the opinions of strangers, friends, family - you won't accomplish much and you could have accomplished much more with some failures along the way. The truth is, strangers opinions about you honestly do not matter. Their thoughts about you will not be written in the history books and the future generation will be judging you too. They are strangers and that is all. Seriously - WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY?!
Now on the flip side - if you audition for American Idol and you do not make it, ask for constructive critizism and learn from it to try again. Don't take to rejection as a negative thing but a learning experience.
As for friends and family, they are there to support you. You're true friends and the non-crazy family members you have will cheer for you when you go for it, pick you back up if you fail and party with you if you succeed. Your friends and family know you inside and out. You can run around naked infront of them and laugh about it. Why should you be worried about their judgement?
“Don't concern yourself with the opinions of those who judge you. That is placing on them an importance they do not have.”
― Donna Lynn Hope
“If you cannot judge a book by its cover, surely we should not judge an author by one book alone?”
― E.A. Bucchianeri
Rejection sucks. It hurts the ego, it's embarassing when people see or hear of it. You straight up FAILED. But rejection isn't always because of the reason most believe it to be. Understanding rejection isn't always cause you blow. If a girl rejects you at a club - maybe she thinks you're ugly - maybe she has a boyfriend she loves dearly and they agreed they wouldn't be dancing with others at clubs - maybe she has a boyfriend and thinks you're ugly anywayz. But hey, you wont know till you go up to her. Worst case scenario, she looks at you, turns to her friends to have her pulled away and people laugh at you. Best case scenario, she thinks you're cute, dances with you and you get her number. Guess how l met my girlfriend?
If you get rejected whether it be by a girl at the club, to a university, a job interview, an organization or whatever it is. It is not always because you just flat out suck. Every scenario in life is complicated and you never know why you may have failed but always believing it's because you weren't good enough will only mental hurt you and make you scared to try again. That's not saying maybe you do suck and you need to fix something about yourself before trying again but not every scenario is completely your fault.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― Winston Churchill
“Fear cuts deeper than swords.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
So when should we take risks? Well we mostly like to take risks when there is barely any risk at all. If I said I'll roll a die and if it were to land 1 - you owe me $1 and if it lands on anything else - I'll pay you $50..... you would be a fool not to accept. But if I said 'Heads or tails - $200 to you if you win, $200 to me if you lose' you may be hesistent. There are many factors of when is a good and bad time to take a risk. You have to weigh the odds and then also weigh to rewards to what you may lose. Typically if you compare the ratios of chances of success to the ratio of positive:negative outcome you can quickly tell whether or not it's worth the risk.
If you got a low chance at landing a career at the interview process.
REWARD - obtaining a rewarding, well paying career
RISK - having the interviewer think you're not good enough
GO TO THE INTERVIEW.
If you apply to a university and think you're chances are slim to none and doesn't cost you anything to apply.
REWARD - Acceptance and starting a new part of your life.
RISK - An otomated rejection letter is sent to you in a small envelope
APPLY.
If you go up to a cute girl at a house party that you would like to speak to that you notice other guys are watching as well. You feel it's about 50/50 if she'll like to talk to you based on the factors of:
Your charm
Your looks
Her looks
Her friendliness/outgoingness
Since you do not have much else to go off of.
REWARD - You got to get to know someone you were curious about at the party
RISK - She thinks you're a creep, tells her friends you're a creep and some strangers laugh at you
Go UP TO THE CUTE GIRL
So the last example though not nearly as significant as the first two, seems a bit daunting. Well guess what may happen if you don't find some bullshit way to meet her? You never see her again anywayz. Good job man - you have already failed and now I will laugh at you(and my opinion matters).
“Fortune sides with him who dares.”
― Virgil
“If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.”
― Clint Eastwood
Okiez so why do we take risks? Simple - to obtain something we see worth whatever consequence may follow. My favorite analogy related to basketball. If you shoot the ball, you'll make some baskets and you'll miss some baskets. But if you don't shoot the ball at all, you will never win the game. The coach only tells you to hold the ball when you are winning(so you can kill time and then win the game) just like you should not risk something if you already are ahead. In gambling, the intelligent players know when to stop when they're ahead than to keep risking themselves to lose it all. In most competitions, players understand to chill and play a stronger defense when they are ahead in score rather than risk an offense that could fail which could lead to a turn in tide that results to a loss.
Take risks to gain something but don't risk something you have earned out of greed to obtain more. When you buy a new pair of Air Jordans, you're gonna have to risk getting them scuffed up if you want to use them. You can always buy another pair like in life you can always try again.
“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
― Theodore Roosevelt
“A ship is safe in harbor, but that's not what ships are for.”
― William G.T. Shedd
Any way, is better than no way at all.”
― Anthony Liccione
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